Saying Goodbye To Our Pets Is Hard

By Cheryl Ryan

The truth is that if you have a pet it’s most likely that you will be responsible for their end of life care. Of course, we all know that going in but when it actually happens it’s so hard. We’ve recently lost our loyal, loving family member. She’s been by our side for years. And yikes, let me tell you it will get you right in the heart.

We knew our girl, Ellie, was getting tired. And after a lifetime of draping herself over our laps the instant our butts hit the couch she started sitting apart from us, a little at first then edging her way further and further towards to the edge of the couch as her aches and pains became more pronounced. 

Her gallop up the stairs became slower and slower until she didn’t join me upstairs anymore. And when she lost her hearing entirely she didn’t even hear us when we came home.

I was ready for it. I thought. I’d read that one of the hardest things for veterinarians was to watch a dog looking frantically for its owner right before they are putting them to sleep. The thing is that after a lifetime of us taking care of them every day to then hand them off in the veterinarian’s lobby, to let someone else be the last person they see – is the way we in modern society have been doing it. 

But increasingly there are vets that come to your home to put your dog down, right in the comfort of their own home with the people they love gathered around them. They give them a sedative which subtly kicks in before euthanizing them. It costs a bit but so does taking them to the veterinarian’s office. 

It was just too much

So when she could no longer walk on her back legs, she gave me a look that let me know she was done. She didn’t want to do it anymore. I went inside and made the call. We booked the appointment for 5 days out so that we could spoil her and say our goodbyes. I’m not entirely sure that this was the best idea. It was a prolonged and stressful goodbye. 

If she was having a good moment I second-guessed my decision and when she wasn’t doing well I felt guilty about not doing it sooner. I’m sure there is no easy answer but overall I would recommend in-home pet euthanasia. I do think it was stress-free for Ellie and I would have been a mess no matter what we’d done. But be warned I wasn’t prepared to see the life leave her. But again, I believe it was a little harder for me but best for her.

Saying goodbye is never easy

On the final day, I wrote down my memories of her. Writing is often a way that I work through things. I wrote about the time we were stung by a hive of yellow jackets together. And how much she loved to chase balls and eat popcorn. I wrote about all of her pet names and riding in the car. It proved to be a great process because I realized that she was no longer doing any of the things that she used to love. I cried the whole time I wrote it but by the time the vet, who was amazing, arrived, I knew we were making the best decision for her. 

When my Mom asked me if I would ever get another pet again after going through that, I said, “Of course, I will. Going through losing our Ellie made me realize more than ever that it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.”

Sending out so much gratefulness and love for all of our family pet members. They unconditionally give us so much as we feed and care for them. And wishing any and all of you that have to go through the loss of your furry partners’ strength as you go through it. 

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  • Reply jenna April 2, 2022 at 10:33 am

    <3 beautiful article

  • Reply Michelle April 5, 2022 at 4:34 am

    My daughter & I just experienced the loss of our beloved Golden Retriever Wally of 15 & half years…
    Heart wrenching and we are in so much pain & grief
    We took him to the beach for his final time on earth surrounded with love
    Thank you for sharing

  • Reply Jil Britt April 5, 2022 at 7:55 am

    I loved Ellie! I remember the day we picked up our sister puppies from the airport. They were such good dogs! I had to put my Jewels down six months before Ellie, and I couldn’t of said it better! Your article was perfect. Brought tears to my eyes!

    • Reply zestandplomb April 5, 2022 at 8:03 am

      I know Jil! Thanks so much for finding them ❤️

  • Reply Christina April 6, 2022 at 3:06 pm

    We all loved Ellie and she was a very lucky doggie to have a wonderful family that cared and loved her from the beginning until the very end.

  • Reply Terry Tersini April 7, 2022 at 10:49 am

    This article made me tear up, remembering my loving pups… we also had the vet come to the house, and it was very peaceful yet so emotional. There is no pain like the sadness of losing your pet as they are such a part of your home. I’m trying to appreciate all the moments with my Sadie dog now, as it seems the time comes faster than it should. Thanks for your beautiful words… and so sorry about saying good bye to Ellie

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